Comments on: One Ironic Tip For Forming And Maintaining Good Relationships… http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/03/one-ironic-tip-for-forming-and-maintaining-good-relationships/ Goal Setting and Productivity for People Who Like Technology Sat, 13 Mar 2010 03:54:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Gordon http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/03/one-ironic-tip-for-forming-and-maintaining-good-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-14044 Gordon Tue, 03 Apr 2007 19:08:23 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/03/one-ironic-tip-for-forming-and-maintaining-good-relationships/#comment-14044 Yup! Laura & I love being together AND we're both OK alone. She travels for work and I get time alone. I go off on the motorcycle (or bicycle) for a week & she gets time alone. Makes coming home a celebration, too. Gordon Yup!
Laura & I love being together AND we’re both OK alone. She travels for work and I get time alone. I go off on the motorcycle (or bicycle) for a week & she gets time alone. Makes coming home a celebration, too.

Gordon

]]> By: Brad Isaac http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/03/one-ironic-tip-for-forming-and-maintaining-good-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-13757 Brad Isaac Sat, 31 Mar 2007 13:58:59 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/03/one-ironic-tip-for-forming-and-maintaining-good-relationships/#comment-13757 I've advised this to some people and literally gotten the response "I couldn't do that!!" When I ask why, they say they are afraid people will stare, feel sorry or ridicule them because "couples rule" or something. I think if someone is concerned about that, they are having an "I am the center of the world" type of reaction. Usually, explaining the distortion of this attitude is enough for them to give it a try. I've done it both ways. Been to many movies / restaurants alone and many with wife/friends. Frankly solitude can be addictive... especially when right at this very moment my son is 6 feet away from me screaming a song at the top of his lungs. ;) I’ve advised this to some people and literally gotten the response “I couldn’t do that!!” When I ask why, they say they are afraid people will stare, feel sorry or ridicule them because “couples rule” or something.

I think if someone is concerned about that, they are having an “I am the center of the world” type of reaction. Usually, explaining the distortion of this attitude is enough for them to give it a try.

I’ve done it both ways. Been to many movies / restaurants alone and many with wife/friends. Frankly solitude can be addictive… especially when right at this very moment my son is 6 feet away from me screaming a song at the top of his lungs. ;)

]]> By: Shauna Arthurs http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/03/one-ironic-tip-for-forming-and-maintaining-good-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-13748 Shauna Arthurs Sat, 31 Mar 2007 13:01:09 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/03/one-ironic-tip-for-forming-and-maintaining-good-relationships/#comment-13748 Hi! This is so true, and does not feel counterintuitive to me at all. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that until and unless we DON'T NEED anyone else, we cannot really give of ourselves in a relationship, and be comfortable enough to maintain our identity while really contributing and being happy. Thanks for the great post! Shauna Hi!

This is so true, and does not feel counterintuitive to me at all.

In fact, I’d go so far as to say that until and unless we DON’T NEED anyone else, we cannot really give of ourselves in a relationship, and be comfortable enough to maintain our identity while really contributing and being happy.

Thanks for the great post!

Shauna

]]> By: Tombo http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/03/one-ironic-tip-for-forming-and-maintaining-good-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-13445 Tombo Wed, 28 Mar 2007 15:50:00 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/03/one-ironic-tip-for-forming-and-maintaining-good-relationships/#comment-13445 I agree. I set a chair in my attic, and when my wife is gone sometimes I will just go sit and read and think and try to listen to how quiet it is. I need some calm alone time on a consistent basis. I agree. I set a chair in my attic, and when my wife is gone sometimes I will just go sit and read and think and try to listen to how quiet it is. I need some calm alone time on a consistent basis.

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