Comments on: How to Get The First Date http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/ Goal Setting and Productivity for People Who Like Technology Wed, 17 Mar 2010 14:13:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: suzanne http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-26050 suzanne Tue, 11 Sep 2007 13:24:14 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/#comment-26050 I get the gist of your lesson but sadly, I've seen folks fall head over heels for someone with whom they have nothing in common but the lack of a common language and call it love. Dating someone who doesn't speak your language is very romantic and exotic. The time and effort required to communicate builds a strong bond but it's not the foundation for a future together. Unfortunately, many people don't get that. They get all wrapped up in talking to each other and forget to pay attention to what they are missing. Maybe you could include an article on figuring out who is really right for you. I get the gist of your lesson but sadly, I’ve seen folks fall head over heels for someone with whom they have nothing in common but the lack of a common language and call it love. Dating someone who doesn’t speak your language is very romantic and exotic. The time and effort required to communicate builds a strong bond but it’s not the foundation for a future together. Unfortunately, many people don’t get that. They get all wrapped up in talking to each other and forget to pay attention to what they are missing. Maybe you could include an article on figuring out who is really right for you.

]]> By: Cheesy Pick Up Lines http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-25996 Cheesy Pick Up Lines Mon, 27 Aug 2007 15:15:55 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/#comment-25996 I wish I knew some of this before my first date :D Ah well, best to learn through experience. I wish I knew some of this before my first date :D

Ah well, best to learn through experience.

]]> By: Brad Isaac http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-25984 Brad Isaac Fri, 24 Aug 2007 18:36:52 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/#comment-25984 @Terra, thanks for the note and the referral :) @Chad, here is my suggestion. Without giving specific wording for what to say, I would recommend speaking about something in the environment. You might ask which book in the Bible she is reading. If she has a drink or dessert you've never tried, you might remark that you've been wanting to try one but is it too sweet? Too chocolatety? too____? One of the benefits of doing the <a href="http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/" rel="nofollow">shyness buster #2</a> is you get <b>so</b> used to talking to people it becomes natural. Picking up on environmental cues you hardly ever think about it anymore. Since she introduced herself, do you remember her name? If you do, it would lend some familiarity to the conversation. Let me know how it goes. @Terra, thanks for the note and the referral :)

@Chad, here is my suggestion. Without giving specific wording for what to say, I would recommend speaking about something in the environment. You might ask which book in the Bible she is reading. If she has a drink or dessert you’ve never tried, you might remark that you’ve been wanting to try one but is it too sweet? Too chocolatety? too____?

One of the benefits of doing the shyness buster #2 is you get so used to talking to people it becomes natural. Picking up on environmental cues you hardly ever think about it anymore.

Since she introduced herself, do you remember her name? If you do, it would lend some familiarity to the conversation.

Let me know how it goes.

]]> By: Terra Andersen http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-25973 Terra Andersen Wed, 22 Aug 2007 03:43:47 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/#comment-25973 Good post! I will recommend this series to some single friends. *=) -Terra www.BetterForBusiness.com Good post! I will recommend this series to some single friends. *=)

-Terra
http://www.BetterForBusiness.com

]]> By: Chad Hudson http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-25970 Chad Hudson Wed, 22 Aug 2007 01:51:27 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/#comment-25970 That was an awesome series, nice job. I am a single guy, normally not shy, however, I am past the point of wanting meaningless relationships. It is surprising how much tougher it is to meet someone and want it to be more than a one-night-stand. For instance, there is a woman that frequents the coffee shop I stop by every morning. I have bought her a cup of coffee (I know all the people that work there and had them buy it for her when I wasn't there.) She did come up and introduce herself to me afterwards, but I didn't follow through. I have said "good morning" to her for about a year now. I just have no idea how to initiate that conversation without looking like that "pick-up guy." I do know that we have at least one thing in common, we are both Christian's she routinely reads her Bible while there. I just didn't want her to think that I was using that to get to her. Anyway, I am on vacation next week, and I have made a commitment to myself to talk to her. Sorry for the long story! Thanks for the articles, very well done. FYI, I will be putting a link to you on my blog, it is very new and I am trying to get in a groove, but hopefully, I will send some people your way! That was an awesome series, nice job. I am a single guy, normally not shy, however, I am past the point of wanting meaningless relationships. It is surprising how much tougher it is to meet someone and want it to be more than a one-night-stand.

For instance, there is a woman that frequents the coffee shop I stop by every morning. I have bought her a cup of coffee (I know all the people that work there and had them buy it for her when I wasn’t there.) She did come up and introduce herself to me afterwards, but I didn’t follow through. I have said “good morning” to her for about a year now. I just have no idea how to initiate that conversation without looking like that “pick-up guy.” I do know that we have at least one thing in common, we are both Christian’s she routinely reads her Bible while there. I just didn’t want her to think that I was using that to get to her. Anyway, I am on vacation next week, and I have made a commitment to myself to talk to her.

Sorry for the long story! Thanks for the articles, very well done. FYI, I will be putting a link to you on my blog, it is very new and I am trying to get in a groove, but hopefully, I will send some people your way!

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