Comments on: Shyness Buster #2: Take the Ellis Challenge! http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/ Goal Setting and Productivity for People Who Like Technology Sat, 13 Mar 2010 03:54:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: NERO http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/comment-page-1/#comment-26132 NERO Thu, 04 Oct 2007 16:28:36 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/#comment-26132 Great site. Nice and refreshing to see someone address these issues w/out telling us we should act like a "jerk" to succeed, or that we have to be "cocky and funny" and gently tease or insult the girl. I prefer the straightforward approach. The thing is I RARELY "approach"; shyness. Should be a capital S really. Usually if I see a female I'm interested in, all I do is ...nothing. And / or then I spend a long time wondering "what if", could we be a good match, etc etc. Recently I decided to talk to and ask out a young lady who teaches at a school I go to at night for foreign language studies. It was very very awkward-feeling because we didn't know each other. But we had chatted a little bit earlier in the evening, and I thought there might be a chance, so I just decided to not waste anymore time on "wondering" about this, and so afterwards I went and talked to her and asked her out for a cup of coffe. Well, the results weren't what I was hoping; she's actually married (I can't be blamed -- wasn't wearing the ring). But she was very cool about it and everything. Sure it was a bit of a letdown , but how would I have ever even found this much out unless I had broken the shyness curse and asked. This way I don't have to go on for weeks and weeks silently "wondering" and wasting time dwelling on it. Personally I think it was a good step and the right thing to do, even though the result wasn't what I had hoped for. Great site. Nice and refreshing to see someone address these issues w/out telling us we should act like a “jerk” to succeed, or that we have to be “cocky and funny” and gently tease or insult the girl. I prefer the straightforward approach. The thing is I RARELY “approach”; shyness. Should be a capital S really. Usually if I see a female I’m interested in, all I do is …nothing. And / or then I spend a long time wondering “what if”, could we be a good match, etc etc. Recently I decided to talk to and ask out a young lady who teaches at a school I go to at night for foreign language studies. It was very very awkward-feeling because we didn’t know each other. But we had chatted a little bit earlier in the evening, and I thought there might be a chance, so I just decided to not waste anymore time on “wondering” about this, and so afterwards I went and talked to her and asked her out for a cup of coffe. Well, the results weren’t what I was hoping; she’s actually married (I can’t be blamed — wasn’t wearing the ring). But she was very cool about it and everything. Sure it was a bit of a letdown , but how would I have ever even found this much out unless I had broken the shyness curse and asked. This way I don’t have to go on for weeks and weeks silently “wondering” and wasting time dwelling on it. Personally I think it was a good step and the right thing to do, even though the result wasn’t what I had hoped for.

]]> By: Life Is Easy / How To Ask Someone Out on A Date http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/comment-page-1/#comment-26010 Life Is Easy / How To Ask Someone Out on A Date Thu, 30 Aug 2007 00:31:36 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/#comment-26010 [...] So how do we get past this communication gap to a point where real men and real women can exchange thoughts without all the BS getting in the way? I am glad you asked. I am sure you've been following along this whole time you know put yourself in the right place at the right time, haven't you? You also know how to defeat shyness if it affects you. So what's left? [...] [...] So how do we get past this communication gap to a point where real men and real women can exchange thoughts without all the BS getting in the way? I am glad you asked. I am sure you’ve been following along this whole time you know put yourself in the right place at the right time, haven’t you? You also know how to defeat shyness if it affects you. So what’s left? [...]

]]> By: Cheesy Pick Up Lines http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/comment-page-1/#comment-25997 Cheesy Pick Up Lines Mon, 27 Aug 2007 15:18:57 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/#comment-25997 Just need to psyche yourself into it and it'll all come naturally after the initial "Hi" Just need to psyche yourself into it and it’ll all come naturally after the initial “Hi”

]]> By: Rob http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/comment-page-1/#comment-25995 Rob Mon, 27 Aug 2007 03:16:23 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/#comment-25995 Awesome advice. I've done this by accident trying to get a petition signed; after a few signatures I was doing much better. The problem is that it's easy to fall back to your ways if you let yourself. Awesome advice. I’ve done this by accident trying to get a petition signed; after a few signatures I was doing much better. The problem is that it’s easy to fall back to your ways if you let yourself.

]]> By: sparx http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/comment-page-1/#comment-25972 sparx Wed, 22 Aug 2007 03:21:05 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/#comment-25972 Brilliant advice. I think that first check mark is undoubtedly the most difficult. I've always had a hard time talking to new people, but what have I got to lose? Thanks for another great post! Brilliant advice. I think that first check mark is undoubtedly the most difficult. I’ve always had a hard time talking to new people, but what have I got to lose?

Thanks for another great post!

]]> By: Brad Isaac http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/comment-page-1/#comment-25926 Brad Isaac Thu, 16 Aug 2007 02:39:04 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/#comment-25926 Hi ejoe and welcome. Thanks for the support! Hi ejoe and welcome. Thanks for the support!

]]> By: ejoe http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/comment-page-1/#comment-25920 ejoe Tue, 14 Aug 2007 07:06:57 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/08/shyness-buster-2-take-the-ellis-challenge/#comment-25920 I like this site, very reasonable advice that makes sense and not overwhelming for the more reserved people out there. good job! I like this site, very reasonable advice that makes sense and not overwhelming for the more reserved people out there.

good job!

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