Comments on: Do Insults and Verbal Abuse Motivate You? Some Self-Help Books Say YES! http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/ Goal Setting and Productivity for People Who Like Technology Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:02:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Seventeen Best-of Articles To Make You Unstoppable » Persistence Unlimited Goal Setting Blog - Setting and Reaching Your Goals http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/comment-page-1/#comment-46187 Seventeen Best-of Articles To Make You Unstoppable » Persistence Unlimited Goal Setting Blog - Setting and Reaching Your Goals Sat, 03 Jan 2009 16:16:31 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/#comment-46187 [...] Do Insults and Verbal Abuse Motivate You? Some Self-Help Books Say YES!  [...] [...] Do Insults and Verbal Abuse Motivate You? Some Self-Help Books Say YES!  [...]

]]> By: Brad Isaac http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/comment-page-1/#comment-26831 Brad Isaac Wed, 13 Feb 2008 13:15:42 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/#comment-26831 Neil, you make some great points. News - negativity Sells. Entertainment with the exception of kids movies ect. is negative. I think it all boils down to wanting to be entertained. Its tough to add drama or excitement to a repetitive task. Whereas, if Someone is standing over you screaming "clean the dishes you loser! " It's entertaining in a way. Neil, you make some great points. News – negativity Sells. Entertainment with the exception of kids movies ect. is negative.

I think it all boils down to wanting to be entertained. Its tough to add drama or excitement to a repetitive task. Whereas, if Someone is standing over you screaming “clean the dishes you loser! ” It’s entertaining in a way.

]]> By: 5 Reasons Why You’ll Never Amount to Anything… » Achieve IT! - Goal Setting Blog http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/comment-page-1/#comment-26823 5 Reasons Why You’ll Never Amount to Anything… » Achieve IT! - Goal Setting Blog Tue, 12 Feb 2008 22:01:16 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/#comment-26823 [...] Warning: I received several unexpected responses to my post about the motivating qualities of verbal abuse and insults. So I elicited the help of an old friend from the Marine corps to expand upon the theme. It contains adult language and may result in a few hard feelings. Due to his obvious connections, he asked me not to identify him by name so we’ll just use his last initial. [...] [...] Warning: I received several unexpected responses to my post about the motivating qualities of verbal abuse and insults. So I elicited the help of an old friend from the Marine corps to expand upon the theme. It contains adult language and may result in a few hard feelings. Due to his obvious connections, he asked me not to identify him by name so we’ll just use his last initial. [...]

]]> By: Neil Wilson http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/comment-page-1/#comment-26822 Neil Wilson Tue, 12 Feb 2008 13:04:34 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/#comment-26822 Why is it that newspapers/news bulletins always carry negative and depressing stories rather than the uplifiting inspiring ones? Why is it that there are no 'feel good' magazines on the shelf, or if they are they are drown out with the ones stating 'my leg fell of in the shopping mall'. Why is it that the bookshelves are currently littered with stories of abusive childhoods. And who wants to read such depressing stuff? Why is it that TV is littered with shows that quite clearly abuse those with less than stellar intellect for the amusement of others. But then the Arena has been around since before Roman times so we should hardly be surprised. I find it interesting that every motivation text you read focuses upon accentuating the positive yet the free market media generates income by doing exactly the opposite. So is there no money in the positive? Why is it that newspapers/news bulletins always carry negative and depressing stories rather than the uplifiting inspiring ones?

Why is it that there are no ‘feel good’ magazines on the shelf, or if they are they are drown out with the ones stating ‘my leg fell of in the shopping mall’.

Why is it that the bookshelves are currently littered with stories of abusive childhoods. And who wants to read such depressing stuff?

Why is it that TV is littered with shows that quite clearly abuse those with less than stellar intellect for the amusement of others. But then the Arena has been around since before Roman times so we should hardly be surprised.

I find it interesting that every motivation text you read focuses upon accentuating the positive yet the free market media generates income by doing exactly the opposite. So is there no money in the positive?

]]> By: David http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/comment-page-1/#comment-26818 David Mon, 11 Feb 2008 23:40:10 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/#comment-26818 Many obstacles can be overcome with gentle persuasion and appeal to the intellect. However, there are those few yet tough habits which to break you need a kick in the pants. I wouldn't go for verbal abuse but I would agree with the necessity of blunt consequences. Nobody should be told they are worth less because of what they cannot to, but should definitely be told what they will never achieve if they don't get on their feet and shape up. Many obstacles can be overcome with gentle persuasion and appeal to the intellect. However, there are those few yet tough habits which to break you need a kick in the pants. I wouldn’t go for verbal abuse but I would agree with the necessity of blunt consequences.

Nobody should be told they are worth less because of what they cannot to, but should definitely be told what they will never achieve if they don’t get on their feet and shape up.

]]> By: Scott Stiegemeyer http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/comment-page-1/#comment-26794 Scott Stiegemeyer Sun, 10 Feb 2008 00:33:46 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/#comment-26794 I think abuse and force can definitely get results. I doubt all those Egyptian slaves built the pyramids because of their love of the pharaoh. However, this eventually backfires. They eventually rebel or escape, to say nothing of the moral problems associated with mistreating other human beings. Kindness can also motivate a person to perform well. Often it works better. People will work longer, harder and make great sacrifices for leaders they care about. But human nature being what it is, kindness can be taken advantage of. So I believe we need a mix of kindness and threats. Kindness to appeal to the better part of us and threats to prod the selfish part. I think abuse and force can definitely get results. I doubt all those Egyptian slaves built the pyramids because of their love of the pharaoh. However, this eventually backfires. They eventually rebel or escape, to say nothing of the moral problems associated with mistreating other human beings.

Kindness can also motivate a person to perform well. Often it works better. People will work longer, harder and make great sacrifices for leaders they care about.

But human nature being what it is, kindness can be taken advantage of. So I believe we need a mix of kindness and threats. Kindness to appeal to the better part of us and threats to prod the selfish part.

]]> By: Ria Kennedy http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/comment-page-1/#comment-26790 Ria Kennedy Sat, 09 Feb 2008 18:28:50 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/#comment-26790 It's good to have a reality check sometimes, but I'm against any kind of abuse. Coaching should help you find your feet, not knock you off your feet. It’s good to have a reality check sometimes, but I’m against any kind of abuse. Coaching should help you find your feet, not knock you off your feet.

]]> By: Terra Andersen http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/comment-page-1/#comment-26785 Terra Andersen Sat, 09 Feb 2008 10:42:18 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/#comment-26785 I once had a coach in high school who was quite verbal with us, but our team was the best in our district. I think people respond to harsh motivation in different ways. Some people buckle down and perform, and others simply shut down. Generally, when someone is barking orders at me with great feeling and emotion, I tend to remember! I once had a coach in high school who was quite verbal with us, but our team was the best in our district. I think people respond to harsh motivation in different ways. Some people buckle down and perform, and others simply shut down. Generally, when someone is barking orders at me with great feeling and emotion, I tend to remember!

]]> By: kim http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/comment-page-1/#comment-26781 kim Fri, 08 Feb 2008 23:58:51 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/#comment-26781 there was a show called sports science on the discovery channel recently that monitored a basketball player's reaction to different coaching styles, and the player did better with the coach that was yelling at him, but from experience, I do better when I verbally abuse myself but if someone else does it, I want to give up there was a show called sports science on the discovery channel recently that monitored a basketball player’s reaction to different coaching styles, and the player did better with the coach that was yelling at him, but from experience, I do better when I verbally abuse myself but if someone else does it, I want to give up

]]> By: Ken Santis http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/comment-page-1/#comment-26776 Ken Santis Fri, 08 Feb 2008 13:26:33 +0000 http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2008/02/do-insults-and-verbal-abuse-motivate-you-some-self-help-books-say-yes/#comment-26776 I don't like authority, so name calling works in the opposite way for me. I don’t like authority, so name calling works in the opposite way for me.

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